Why is being sexy so “gay” to a lot of straight teen boys?
Mairead L asked:
I guess it’s a mix of immaturity and hidden homophobia right? My boyfriend isn’t the typical teenage boy, he’s quite mature for his age and says that he has nothing against gays and isn’t homophobic. But he does use the phrase “that’s so gay” a lot and won’t take up any good appearance enhancing habits and techniques I throw his way. He has only one brother, his dad’s a farmer (proper old fashioned guy type) and his mom’s a hippy who doesn’t wear any make-up, jewllery, perfume or use hair products! But even she said he should cut his hair more and exercise and eat better! I’ll admit he’s tried skinny jeans for me and used to take care of his hair when we first started going out, but now it’s “too gay” to do that or have it shorter. I’m glad he’s no poser and doesn’t take long getting ready, but how can I get him to start exercising and building muscle again like all the other macho, straight guys around me? I don’t want the perfect male model look, but I would love to crave his body to the extreme again! It’s even affecting how turned on I get!:( He keeps saying he will and said he did start doing sit ups there a while ago but gave up!:(
I keep my body in great shape for him…how can I get him to do the same for me without offending him?
I guess it’s a mix of immaturity and hidden homophobia right? My boyfriend isn’t the typical teenage boy, he’s quite mature for his age and says that he has nothing against gays and isn’t homophobic. But he does use the phrase “that’s so gay” a lot and won’t take up any good appearance enhancing habits and techniques I throw his way. He has only one brother, his dad’s a farmer (proper old fashioned guy type) and his mom’s a hippy who doesn’t wear any make-up, jewllery, perfume or use hair products! But even she said he should cut his hair more and exercise and eat better! I’ll admit he’s tried skinny jeans for me and used to take care of his hair when we first started going out, but now it’s “too gay” to do that or have it shorter. I’m glad he’s no poser and doesn’t take long getting ready, but how can I get him to start exercising and building muscle again like all the other macho, straight guys around me? I don’t want the perfect male model look, but I would love to crave his body to the extreme again! It’s even affecting how turned on I get!:( He keeps saying he will and said he did start doing sit ups there a while ago but gave up!:(
I keep my body in great shape for him…how can I get him to do the same for me without offending him?
How can I have him secure in looking good? The best that he can be? People won’t think he’s gay because he has me, doesn’t act it and even if he did dress “gay” , he wouldn’t look it cuz he’s manly built!
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July 30th, 2010 at 6:52 pm
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exercise together. problem solved.
July 31st, 2010 at 7:18 am
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Others are just jealous. be sexy.
August 3rd, 2010 at 5:47 pm
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a lot of guys are insecure with there masculinity and think that if they do female stuff, like pluck their eyebrows and all, that they will turn gay. Yeah it’s a Feminine thing to do but I’m 100% sure that I’m a guy, I gotta d**k (pardon my french) and when I finish I have a feeling, I’m gonna still be straight ha ha.
August 5th, 2010 at 8:38 pm
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He’s just being himself. Some guys aren’t into fussing about their hair and their clothes. Let him dress the way he wants – it’s really not all that important.