Help! Gift for Bridal shower vs. wedding gift?
spadivar asked:
I am not sure what to give my friend for her bridal shower. The shower invite had two registry cards and the wedding invite had no registry cards. I went ahead and bought her a cute nightgown from vic.secret(nothing sexy), perfume and I also bought a gift card from one of the registries. So do I give her both for the shower gift and if I do, what gift for the wedding? or shall I just give the vsecret gift for shower and the gift card for the wedding? Help! I am so confused!!!
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I am not sure what to give my friend for her bridal shower. The shower invite had two registry cards and the wedding invite had no registry cards. I went ahead and bought her a cute nightgown from vic.secret(nothing sexy), perfume and I also bought a gift card from one of the registries. So do I give her both for the shower gift and if I do, what gift for the wedding? or shall I just give the vsecret gift for shower and the gift card for the wedding? Help! I am so confused!!!
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June 30th, 2009 at 6:20 am
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The gifts you have bought should be for the shower. Most people probably bought her things from the registry for the shower. Hopefully since it’s not a lingerie shower your gift won’t seem out of place. Unfortunately showers have added to the expense of a wedding but for the shower about $50 is appropriate and for the wedding $100+
July 1st, 2009 at 6:40 am
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give her the nightgown and perfume for a bridal shower gift and the gift card for a wedding.
July 1st, 2009 at 2:56 pm
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normal you give the gift card and the vic secret nightgown at the shower and give a cash gift at the wedding.
July 2nd, 2009 at 6:29 am
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Bridal shower gifts are for the bride, aka nighties, etc. The wedding gift is usually something for both the bride and groom, such as towels or gift cards.
July 4th, 2009 at 6:33 pm
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Yes, the lingerie for the shower and the gift card for the wedding.
July 5th, 2009 at 4:10 pm
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It is a toughie. You would think there would of at least been a registry for the wedding gift, then it would not be too confusing. I have no idea, tho shower gifts are usually personal items for the bride. Wedding gifts are usually for the couple and their home/life together.
Weddings get so expensive these days!
July 7th, 2009 at 2:44 pm
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The Victoria’s Secret nighty sounds like the perfect thing for the bridal shower. you can give them the gift card for the wedding gift but the amount should be enough to cover at least a couple of selections from their list so that they can pick what they want/need most.
July 10th, 2009 at 10:24 pm
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You need 2 gifts, one for each event. Something from the registry, or a gift card to that store makes a great wedding present.
July 13th, 2009 at 8:54 pm
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I wouldn’t give both for the shower–I’d give the vic. secret for the shower gift, and the gift card for the wedding gift.
And she’s doing it correctly–you shouldn’t get any registry information with the actual wedding invitation. It’s ok to put it in with shower invites, because the purpose of a bridal shower is to “shower” the bride with gifts. Everyone knows that. But the wedding invitation should never, never have anything about gifts in it–that’s an invitation to share a special day. Bringing a gift is optional (although most people do).
July 16th, 2009 at 10:27 am
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gifts that are more personal …as in nighties and other things are great for giving at a bridal show and thing that are for the couples home are what should be given at the wedding reception…
July 17th, 2009 at 3:01 am
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It really depends on how much money you want to spend. The nightgown is not an appropriate wedding gift (as it is just for the bride, not bride and groom), so it’s a given that that gift is for the shower. If you want to also give her the gift card as a shower present, go ahead, but then you’ll have to get another gift for the wedding. If you’ve spent as much as you want to already, then give just the nightgown at the shower and the gift card at the wedding.
Contrary to an earlier poster’s advice, you do not need to give money for a wedding gift. Any gift (cash, a gift card, an item off a registry or an item of your own choosing) are appropriate. Technically, no gift is required, but custom is to give one if you attend the wedding or are close to either the bride or groom.
By the way, the wedding invitation was correct not to include a registry list. It is considered rude and crass to suggest a wedding present. While custom says that you bring a wedding gift, it is rude to essentially ask for one. Registries are often included with shower invitations since the entire purpose of the shower is to give gifts.
July 18th, 2009 at 6:08 pm
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Lingerie should be for a lingerie shower specifically. Look and see if the invitation was for “lingerie” or for gifts in general. The gift card would be a good gift to take to the wedding.
July 20th, 2009 at 7:06 am
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I have seen it done lots of ways – I just got married, so I’ll tell you what people did for us. For my bridal shower, I got lots of girly stuff and some stuff from our registry. For the wedding, some people just considered the gift they gave us for the shower a present for both the shower and the wedding. Some people gave us an additional present off the registry, like household items or gift cards (which we loved!! they are the best present besides cash!). If it were me giving someone a gift, I would give the bride something kind of girly for her shower…after all it’s a BRIDAL shower. The nightgown then would be great. Then I would give them the gift card for the wedding. That seemed to be the most common thing we got, but you could do it either way and any gift you give would be appreciated.
I hope that made sense. Let me know if you have any questions.
July 22nd, 2009 at 12:24 am
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I would giver her the nightie and perfume at her shower and save the gift card for the wedding.
That way she can plan on wearing her nightie on her honeymoon or not:)
July 25th, 2009 at 12:01 am
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I think it depends on how good of friends you are and how much you want to spend on her shower and wedding gifts. A good amount for a shower gift for a friend is about $30-40. If she is a really good friend, you could spend more. For the wedding, I would give a gift that is about equal to what youthink that they are paying for your meal and if you are taking a guest, double it. For instance, if they are having it at a nice hotel, figure atleast $50 per person, so that would be $50 or if you take a guest $100. If you feel more comfortable giving a gift or gift card, you can look at her registry and give her an actual gift at the wedding or you could order it ahead of time and have it delivered to her house.
July 25th, 2009 at 6:10 am
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you usually give one for shower and one for wedding.. here is the perfect gift to get her and it is a very reasonable price..
after she gets married it will get her named changed in one step and its perfect, i have been marrie for 2 yrs and some of my bills and banks have my old last name.. its a wedding must have and i know the bride will thank you for it later